There are many people who have a variety of reservations when it comes to talking to loved ones about specific topics. One of those topics you might have difficulty bringing up, at least with your aging mother or father, could be home care.
Home care is definitely something many people avoid talking about, but why? Could it be that since you live in the same town or relatively close to them, you assume looking after them is your responsibility?
This is often what family members feel. That it is their duty, their responsibility to be the primary caregivers for loved ones.
But, is that really the case?
As an adult child, do you actually have a specific responsibility to your aging parent? To a degree, sure, that is something most of us feel. A sense of obligation, duty, and respect.
But, does that mean you have to give up your own life? The things you enjoy? Spending time with friends and other loved ones? Pursuing your career?
No, it doesn’t. That’s why home care is such a valuable asset. When people understand the true nature of home care, what it offers, what it does for aging clients, and how it can be a great benefit, they realize there’s nothing to fear in bringing up the topic.
What drives you to avoid talking about home care?
Do you worry that your mother or father or somebody else in the family may ask why you can’t do it? Do you simply not know enough about home care to begin with?
Usually, it’s one of those two things. But it often comes down to that second key element: people don’t know very much about home care.
That’s because unless you or somebody close to you has needed home care in the past, you may only have limited information and understanding about it. And, if you don’t know very much about it, it opens the door to misconceptions.
It also makes it very difficult for you to answer questions your mother or father or somebody else may have about it. Sometimes, people ask questions as a means of defense. But, if you don’t have reasonable answers, you won’t be able to continue the conversation all that effectively.
The best thing you could do for yourself and your parent, before sitting down to talk about home care (which is the best option when people need help with daily tasks), is to learn more about home care. This is also true for hospice care.
Then you will be armed and ready with the right answers that will likely convince her that this is a good option to consider at this stage in her life.