Knowing that your family member is close to passing away allows you time to say goodbye, but it’s also a time of extreme grief that can feel never-ending for you. Here are some ways you might start to deal with your emotions.
Journal Your Feelings and Your Memories.
If your feelings are too big and too raw to share or to do anything else with right now, you might find that you get some relief through journaling. In your own journal, you can dig deeper into what you’re feeling and why. You may also be able to work through the darkest parts of those feelings so that you can start to leave them behind.
Talk with Your Family Member.
Often the family member who is about to pass away is still able to talk with you to some extent. If this is possible in your situation, you may be able to help each other to process what you’re feeling and what is happening. This can be a powerful set of conversations that you can reflect on later, when your family member is gone.
Share Memories with Other People.
Other people who also love your family member are likely experiencing some of the same feelings you’re experiencing. Talking with each other about your memories and how you’re feeling can help each of you to cope. You might also want to consider working on a group project together, like a scrapbook of everyone’s memories.
Reconnect with Other People.
Being a caregiver to someone who has a terminal condition often means that you’re not as involved with friends and other people as you once might have been. Take some time now and reach out to other people again. You may not have the time yet to fully rebuild those relationships, but you can make the beginning overtures.
Join a Grief Support Group.
One big advantage of having end-of-life care support is that they can help you to find grief support groups. They can also step in and provide respite care while you’re attending meetings. Talking with other caregivers and family members who are facing situations similar to your own can help you to find ways to cope with how you’re feeling.
You might feel as if you can’t do much about your feelings of grief before your family member dies. But you can learn to accept what is about to happen and give yourself the tools now that you’ll need later when the pain feels even bigger.
If you or your aging loved one could benefit from End of Life Care in St. Mathews, SC, contact the caring staff at Grove Park Hospice, (803) 536-6644